Bruce Lee shares how to find inner peace: Be water, my friend

This article is the start of a 3-part reflection series exploring Bruce Lee’s philosophy, especially his timeless quote: “Be water, my friend.”

What does it really mean to “be water” in real life?
For me, it’s about adaptability. Letting go of rigid expectations. Learning to live from a place of flow — not force.

This journey took me across the Norfolk coast, where I recorded three unscripted videos that explore the Fit2Thrive lifestyle in practice. These reflections combine personal growth, mindful living, and a deeper look at how Bruce Lee’s teachings still guide us today.

• In Part 1, I explain why Bruce Lee’s words have stayed with me for over 20 years.
• In Part 2 and Part 3, I take you with me to the beaches of Hunstanton and Cromer, where I reflect on how this philosophy shows up in my everyday life.

If you’re looking for a grounded, honest approach to living in alignment, this series is for you.

I was fortunate many years ago when a friend introduced me to the teachings of Bruce Lee, a martial arts legend. His martial arts success is not my focus as I am more interested in what he was able to do, particularly the speed and control he achieved, but also the wide-ranging philosophic teachings he had learnt and applied.

Be Water, My Friend: The Bruce Lee Life Principle

Before we dive into Bruce Lee’s iconic philosophy, I want to share something personal.

This post has been one of the most visited pages on my site for a while. Something about the phrase “Be water, my friend” clearly resonates with many of us—and I wanted to honour that by bringing it to life in a new way.

So I finally recorded a video. Not scripted, not polished—just real. A reflection from the seaside with my daughter, where this philosophy clicked with me all over again. I talk about health, parenting, creativity, and what it means to flow with life instead of fighting it.

I hope it helps you see that health doesn’t have to be hard. It can be honest. It can be human. It can be… water.

Watch the video below, then keep reading to explore how Bruce Lee’s words continue to guide me—and might just guide you too.

Part 2: Be Water in Real Life — My Reflection from Hunstanton Beach

After filming the intro above, I found myself sitting on the beach in Hunstanton with the space and stillness to really reflect.

No script. No setup. Just the sound of the waves, the open sky, and my thoughts on what “Be water, my friend” means in real life—not as a quote, but as a way of being.

In this video, I explore:

• How Bruce Lee’s philosophy speaks to burnout, balance, and modern life
• Why nature is a vital part of the healing and alignment process
• How I’ve learned to flow with who I am, not fight against it
• What it means to live Fit2Thrive, moment by moment

Watch the video below to hear the full reflection.

Stay with me to the end—there’s a short scenic segment from Hunstanton that brings the emotion of the day into view.

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Part 3: Fit2Thrive in Practice — Final Reflections from Cromer

Coming soon…

What does “Be Water” mean?

Bruce is known for a famous quote known as “Be water, my friend”

Be like water making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way around or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves.

Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend

Bruce Lee

In the following video, Bruce reads the quote, and hearing it in his own words really helps to understand the meaning behind the words

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cJMwBwFj5nQ

His biography is full of varied teaching from the West and the East, from older philosophies and more modern, all blended into a personal approach that fits Bruce and could fit others. The concept of being water is, I understand, a very Chinese and Eastern philosophy that I strongly relate to and find parallels with in many ways, particularly in being relentless and pragmatic. It is a trait of character that the Chinese attribute to people.

Belonging to water in five elements, this kind of people is very gentle, smart and competent. Water people are mainly intelligent, frank and quick-witted and they have good memory and always think twice before they act.

We all have our strengths and weaknesses and those with a tendency to act like “water” adjust their approach to the task at hand because water can go up and over, around, under and even through as it seeps into things so it has an amazing ability to change things to its will over time. An epic example is ice glaciers carving a valley, which shows water can do so given time and weight.

In people, this represents adaptability, pragmatism, patience and intelligence. The value I find is that this analogy helps focus my mind and change my expectations of what I want to achieve. Instead of focusing entirely on the end goal, I think about the journey and how to overcome each obstacle, and I start to listen and watch, pay attention to the problem at hand. I start to work the problem and ask what is needed right now.

Further reading

What Did Bruce Lee Mean When He Said, “Be Like Water, My Friend. by Prakash Joshi Pax