I don’t know about you but one thing I have always struggled with is finding the right conversations on line. I’ve always felt a bit of a misfit so I always seem to feel the conversations I do find don’t fit me.
For example I grew up in an academic, arts and engineering family yet I chose to pursue P.E and sports science because I got fascinated by sport and health. So no one in my family could really hold a conversation about what I was really passionate about.
Though during my degree I found I didn’t know anywhere near as much about sports as my fellow jocks because in fact my interest was in health, I just didn’t want to be a doctor, My interest is human performance and not limited to human illness so a family background in classical music or and engineering didn’t prepare me for such a sport focused community. So I felt totally out of place once again.
When I left university I went into IT which got me back into engineering but I still prefer to see the biology and human performance in my work which most IT folk don’t really understand.
You may now begin to see my dilemma. My interests don’t fit and I have never known where to go for the conversations that fit me. My interests are just so varied covering anything from:
- systems biology,
- computational biology,
- being an entrepreneur.
They’re all fascinating to me and that seems to be my main problem, I just like so many things and I’m noticing that is my general pattern. I prefer complex topics over simple ones, the hardest challenges over the simplest and I do often make things hard for myself because of this and I have coming to accept that this is who I am.
I am determined that now that I am a father I will use this as a strength. I have an interest in most things which makes it easy to bond with my little one and also teach him about most areas. That gives me a lot of confidence for the future because I will always have some knowledge of whatever he is doing or interested in.
Though I really want to connect with anyone who understands this problem or simply shares some of my interests or beliefs. Mainly because the web is such a big place and there are so many options. If you don’t fit neatly into the existing pots then you find yourself wandering a little aimlessly and a little adrift. That’s fine because I’m used to it and I like variety but when I do meet like minded people it’s a whole lot of fun.
If you have any advice then please let me know.